“Pseudo” Correct

“There’s nothing wrong with being a loser, it just depends on how good you are at it.”

~Billie Joe Armstrong

Let me be human for a minute. I’ve a desk full of scrap paper, a few empty water bottles and a glass of Pinot Noir. Wearing my bowler hat, reading about strategy but then listening to Derek Sivers, an incredibly down to earth fellow who started that little website known as CD Baby,  thinking about this enigma: “life” and realizing (yet again) that I might have it all wrong.

{insert that “hang your head” emoticon}

cone of shame

Truthfully though, once you realize that you’ve got it wrong, maybe you can totally reroute your decision-making paradigm…and (this is the pincher) start again.

YES. I do mean: start again.

Thank the Lord for shame. Shame breeds incredibly creative geniuses, shame leads the diehard go-getters to actually “get” something. It lets you take an inward look and realize how completely ridiculous you’re being. The cone: let’s you focus. Simple. Easy. Hard to take in.

In all blunt honesty (for the sake of creativity) you know that it’s truth. A person scarcely learnt anything when someone told them they were right. It was only when someone told them they were wrong that they thought “Oh, I should change a few things.”

I’m right (see what I did there?).

But there’s a flip side here as well. Without attempting and failing, attempting and failing, we wouldn’t have things like: lightbulbs and telephones. Of course, you’re thinking, “Tricia, this is age-old knowledge.” Yes, yes I know. But do we actually follow through on those well known mantras? No. We don’t. Why? Because we live in an “instant gratification” era. People are instantly famous, instantly popular, instantly rich because of this entity called the internet. Things spread like wild-fire with the snap of your fingers.

This also mean one certain truth as well: that if you’re not making it yet, you’ll get there soon enough. BUT: while listening to Sivers in a talk about unconventional lessons, he said a few things (well more than a few but I am focusing on a few) that hit home for me.

Thanks to Sivers I learned a very important truth about myself: That I’d like to leave a legacy. BOOM. There, I wrote it. But what if my way of leaving that is completely wide of the mark?

Yes, persistence is key. And you shouldn’t let failure get you down.


But if something isn’t work at all, as in, if there are an inordinate amount of road blocks: stop and switch. But then Sivers also says that things take time. Aren’t these two conflicting messages? Well no, not when you think to yourself: persistence of the right thing is key. Sivers says: If you’re pushing something that isn’t working, stop pushing it and try something else.


For me: what does this mean?

I’m asking myself a few questions:

  1. Is this whole writing poetry thing a step in the wrong direction? Am I punching a brick wall with bloody fists?
  2. This whole FindingFelicity thing: what am I doing with it? Sure raising awareness for blood donations and patient autonomy: but how is this site accomplishing that?
  3. This whole MBA thing. What on earth will it come to?

I’ve not the slightest clue. 

no clue
Not a blinking clue. My feminine intuition tells me “My goals are leading up a nowhere creek.”

BUT (and this brings me to my last and final point) That has got to be okay, as in I have no choice but to be okay with it. AND, one of Derek Sivers’ last points is to make it early: make it dirty. If you’re not embarrassed by your first “anything” then you’ve done it too late. This circuits back to the cone of shame. It’s the worst bowl of cereal you’ll ever eat for breakfast, but it’ll probably be the healthiest.

GREAT! You know this means I’ve (and you’ve) made a step in the “pseudo” correct direction. Yes. Moving on up in the world.


The Takeaways: 

  • YES: failure (not such a new point)

  • YES: embarrassment (new point for me)

  • BOO: persistence of the wrong thing (also new)

Talk about a learning curve straight upwards. Some of us accidentally figured it out, they hit the mother-load. Which is lovely. For us “others,” we need to become like Wile E. Coyote; blown up, stretched, cut in half, go “splat,” “kapow,” “zoing,” and all that jazz. And yet we’d strive to live on. Don’t get me wrong; we’re the stuff of legends, this “ain’t no thang.”

This is one of those moments when Beck’s lyrics in Loser really ring loudly. Yes it’s true, we’re an awesome species, we’re odd, we’re crazy, and I’ll still need a drink after writing this because it means I need to swallow some pretty harsh realities…

Tina’s expression + Amy’s action = Me this very moment.

Thank you and Good Morning.

Tricia Maria

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