Written By: Amalia Khweis
First things first, I have to say that I am extremely excited about writing this blog post on being happy! Huge Thank You to my home-slice, Tricia for asking me to write a post for her awesome blog!
In the immortal words of The Terminator “Come with me if you want to live” (but only kinda sorta).
I would like to start with asking a question “Is there truly a way to find felicity?” Let me take you through my opinion on that. Obviously I think anyone is capable of finding it but few actually accomplish it in the end. Now, I am not claiming that I have any sort of secrets to accomplishing this great thing but I will share with you what I have learned throughout my journey.
One major conclusion that I have stumbled upon is this; happiness isn’t merely an emotion, it is a choice. Just like a good diet, exercise, education and many other things. You choose who you are and thus you make a conscious effort to ultimately be happy. Now wait, wait, wait, before you go jumping to any conclusions about how immensely naïve that statement is. Let me explain, I am a firm realist, I understand many factors play into how life turns out (i.e. emotional/mental illnesses, poverty, family issues and so many other things…). With that being said I think with help from professionals, medicine or whatever the case is, anyone one is able to achieve a good mental state to where happiness is accessible. However, there have been many people throughout history who are from the worst of the worst that have/had such a sincere smile it would just melt your face off.
Let me tell you about and experience I had , when I was in college I took a trip to Ethiopia, at that time I wanted to do humanitarian work and learn about orphan care. I learned more about happiness then anything else which I didn’t expect. During my short trip there I met orphans who have the worst life stories I have ever heard and I couldn’t even imagine being in their shoes for one minute. Spending time with these children I learned that I could take the hardships in my life and turn them into helpful resources for making a positive change for my future and for others’. Since my time there I have made conscious efforts to rationalize my emotion from what is truly important to what thing I am just being a baby about, honestly.
For the past several years I have carried around a notebook for when I find something is bothering me. I write it down before talking to anyone about it. I write what caused it, how I am feeling about it and what I think my next steps are to get back on a positive track. After I spend time writing, I read it right after then I read it two or three days later. If I am still feeling the same way days later I will get a second opinion. You would be surprised how many things we make such a big deal about initially isn’t actually a big at all. I found that I was one who held on to petty things and that affected my happiness. Although I know I have so many more things to learn about life and happiness, I have found myself less stressed. When a problem arises, I look at it as more of just an obstacle course instead of the end of the world. Instead I think of myself as this little guy:
It’s taken several years to finally figure this one out but for it I can say my life is much happier because it’s not based solely on emotion. Finally with this all being said I believe all good things take time. So to answer my initial question “Is there a way to find felicity”; yes, with time and conscious efforts you can achieve it!
Us happy people gotta stick together.
I depend heavily on my family and my friends who I ask to send anything on happiness, motivation, how they find it all in the name of life and being able to live it. I am very grateful to them for their participation. If you’d like to do so please…drop me a line.~FindingFelicity